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The DTPHD Podcast by David Tian, Ph.D.

Aug 12, 2020

This talk is a short excerpt from a private Zoom seminar in May 2020 as part of the Aura Mastermind. The accompanying text for this seminar is Richard Schwartz, “You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For”:


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What An Unconditional Love Relationship Is Like Between Two True Selves Shownotes

1:02 David Tian Ph.D. explains how our various parts work in a relationship
9:28 What are exiled parts of ourselves?
15:52 This happens when you are the primary source of love for your parts
17:59 The three ways your most vulnerable parts were exiled
24:03 What qualities do we lose when parts of us are exiled?
26:00 This is how exiles feel in an intimate relationship
32:48 What extreme belief do our parts have about intimate relationships?
41:15 How attachment re-injuries impact our intimate relationships
46:55 How your partner can become your "tor-mentor"
50:49 The problem with our exiled parts
53:30 The solution to the problem with our exiled parts
56:08 Two major types of love
1:00:53 Common manifestations of protective parts in intimate relationships
1:03:22 Relationship troubleshooting issues to look out for