Mar 21, 2019
"Values, Virtues, Vice, and Dating" is part of a full-day seminar I gave at the Le Meridien Bangkok on 8 December 2018. In this keynote talk to a group of private coaching clients, I reveal how morality is the missing piece in the puzzle of dating, mating, love, happiness, and life overall. I also propose a virtue ethical approach to life and values, informed by a deeper understanding of moral philosophy from both eastern and western traditions. And I argue that we evolved a moral sense as an adaptive mechanism for forming smarter, more efficient, more trustworthy alliances. The moral sense is also adaptive because it allows us to raise happier families, resulting in healthier and happier offspring.
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Values, Virtues, Vice, and Dating: Ethics as the Missing Link to Love, Happiness, & the Good Life Show Notes
1:01 Why having your own set of values is important
6:26 This is what’s wrong with the MGTOW, Red Pills, and Incels
10:53 Characteristics of a narcissist
16:50 This is why many millennials are screwed
21:31 What does emotional freedom feels like?
26:53 The human being’s evolutionary advantage
34:11 The sin that overshadows all other deadly sins
44:03 What psychopaths are like when in relationships
50:00 The four cardinal virtues and why they matter
56:22 An introduction to the Confucian virtues
1:00:59 The crucial difference between knowledge and practice
1:05:18 How one can become evil without even realizing it
1:11:32 How artifice and the artificial can be good
1:16:25 This is how you become a better person
1:19:50 Understanding moral connoisseurship
1:25:11 How you develop connoisseurship
1:29:48 Why should you be good?
1:36:01 Why being virtuous is also good from an evolutionary perspective
1:39:45 What makes your life meaningful
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